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anxiety, kids, school, the Mommy | August 28, 2013

Preschool Separation Anxiety

Oh my sweetie pie had so much separation anxiety when I started taking
her to pre-school 4 years ago.  Our daughter’s very first and wonderful
teacher had me bring her to class 10 minutes after school drop-off ended
because she was so sensitive.  This late drop off idea was a win-win situation for
us and the teacher because my daughter couldn’t handle all the good-bye
crying and had a hard time recovering for the rest of the day.  Ideas
like this are the reason I love teachers.

The
stubborn anxiety has come and gone through the years and there have
been two more suggestions by the professionals that have helped us the most. 
The first one is from my awesome counselor and psychologist Dr. Beth
Fowler.  She gave a great talk titled “Securely Attached or Attached at
the Hip?” at our school 2 years ago.  She suggested giving your child a
Hero Team and so I did.

After school, the same day as the talk, I excitedly told my 3 year old
(almost 4) daughter I had a gift for her.  I brought her over to an open
area and motioned to an imaginary team like I was Vanna White and said,
“This is your Hero Team!  They are here for you and with you when ever
you need them.  They will come with you to school and help you when you
feel sad.  They understand how you feel and they are on your team!”

Then I introduced her to each imaginary team member.  “Lilly this is
Jesus, Jesus this is Lilly.  Rapunzel this is Lilly, Lilly this is
Rapunzel.  Dora this is Lilly, Lilly this is Dora.  Woody and Buzz this
is Lilly.”  I was going to give her a team of 5 but she didn’t let me
stop, she needed Rapunzel’s horse Maximus and Woody’s Bullseye, then we
needed Flynn Ryder and Ariel…  This was an All-Star Hero Team and it
was very successful for us!

Sometimes we would send a few members of the team ahead of us to check
out the classroom and to wait for her.  Sometimes she’d tell me on the
way to school that Buzz was flying above the car and that Woody and
Bullseye were riding beside the car.  The other day we were out to eat
for an early dinner, we hadn’t spoken of the team in months, there were
three open tables near us and she told me her Hero Team was there!  And
on the first day of Kindergarten, before I said good-bye to her, I was
trying to leave with a few reassuring words and reminded her of her Hero
Team.  She started to stop me and tell me that she didn’t need them but
then she changed her mind. 🙂  I asked her where the team was for the
second day of school and she said they stayed home.  Thank you Dr.
Fowler for our Hero Team, tell it to your neighbor!

The next suggestion you may have heard about but if you haven’t, you must
tell it to your neighbor!  The same teacher I spoke about above told us
about The Kissing Hand. 
It’s a story about a raccoon having a hard time going to night school
and his mommy gives him a kissing hand that is always with him.  This
sweet story has been very helpful for both of my kids, they even like to
look at it on the way to school.  And our babysitter says our 3 year
old baby boy holds the kiss to his cheek when he’s missing us at
bedtime.  So sweet!  I’ve seen the book at Target but the website says it’s only available online.

These wonderful ideas: Late drop-off, The Hero Team and The Kissing Hand,
what would we do without the thoughtful professionals who share them
with us!  I’m so thankful for them!  Please pass this post along to
anyone who has a kiddo missing someone at school and please share any
ideas that have worked for you or someone you know, we can all benefit!

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  1. Tara {The Silver Lining} says

    August 29, 2013 at 9:09 pm

    Your little ones are absolutely adorable! Such sweet little faces. Great tips! I'll have to share with my sister who just started taking her youngest (4) to pre-school this week. She is having ups and downs and the day before school started she was crying and asking to go stay at her Gran's house for the week. It has to be so hard to watch them having a hard time with school. 🙁 The Hero Team is such a cute way to handle the whole thing!

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  2. Julia | Pawleys Island Posh says

    September 3, 2013 at 5:15 pm

    So happy to hear your techniques! My sweet Wells had horrible separation anxiety a few weeks ago at VBS and we are all holding our breath for the tears as she starts preschool next week. Everyone suggested the kissing hand to us but I think the all-star team is going to be a big hit!

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  3. KGolden says

    September 17, 2013 at 12:32 pm

    Best best ever. Perhaps cause I'm a teacher? Or perhaps cause I love y'all so much. Yes, I think that. You're a great mommy. :)) xo

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